Why a Traditional Marriage is so important for young adults:
Marriage is the ultimate commitment that a man and woman can make. Having been married for the past fifteen years I can certainly advocate that marriage empowers a person and allows them to be the best they can be. There is the advantage of having your spouse as your life partner. There is intimacy, financial stability, trust, and also the ability to create a family from this commitment. Marriage is not for everyone, but in modern times the way marriage is viewed seems to differ. There are couples that cohabit prior to marriage, and also same-sex marriages. This can be confusing for young adults that are seeking traditional marriage. Marriage seems to be considered just a piece of paper for many. Marriage traditions are certainly changing.
Many couples choose cohabiting before marriage. In the State of Florida there is a law that couples should not be living together. This has been an issue since the 1800’s. Many couples just choose to marry or disregard the law. The penalty is a second-degree misdemeanor and a $500 fine and even 60 days in jail. Governor Rick Scott has mentioned repeatedly “that repealing the law is not a top priority” for the State of Florida. This is a way for social conservatives to maintain the laws on the books (Munzenrieder, 2011). I can agree with the social conservatives regarding the issue of a cohabiting relationship. Cohabiting makes it easier to remain unmarried, mostly due to fears of divorce.
In the State of Florida there is also much controversy over same-sex marriages. Florida is known to be a conservative state. In the state of Florida there are 67 counties. Miami Dade County Court Systems were able to approve same-sex marriages (Hall, 2015). This is an oxymoron. The law should warrant statewide approval. A traditional marriage consists of a man and a woman who fall in love with each other and decide they want to be together for the rest of their lives. They decide to settle their differences and create a unification called “marriage”. Many times having children becomes part of the marital decision. Marriage may not be for everyone, but it is an important part of our society. Regarding same-sex marriages, I can agree with Louisiana Governor, Bobby Jindal (Republican). He is a supporter of “traditional marriages,” and believes that marriage should be between a man and a woman (Tumulty, 2014).
As Professor Scott Hall from Ball State University mentions” marriage is the highest point a romantic relationship can reach, or the highest point one can make.” There is a security to marriage. Many young couples feel pressure to get married. However, for some marriages, it is more important than a hobby, it is a way of life: There were 517 students surveyed and it was found that for many:
The research found that young adults expected that marriage would be more important to their lives than parenting, careers or leisure activities. Marriage becomes a desire for many. Marriage is considered a normal. The study also found:
- Those with stronger religious beliefs were going to prioritize marriage.
- Married couples tend to drink less alcohol, become more child centered, watch less porn and also were less promiscuous.
- Participants with higher values of marriage also had a greater belief that marriage takes effort, embraced stereotypical gender roles and believed in the overall importance of marriage.
“Some associate marriage with traditional gender roles — which is why some people are not very interested in marriage,” Hall said. “I think the majority of young people have a fairly flexible ideal regarding gender roles, but I think most believe that gender is inherent in the types of interests and tasks people engage in or aspire toward, so they accept , and even embrace, some gendered divisions of marital roles.” (Hall, 2015).
Although marriage is not important for everyone, marriage may still be the best commitment between two people. There is the creation of a family. Only half of Americans are married. According to the Pew Center Research Center about 40% of unmarried adults considered marriage to be obsolete. For those that remain married, “marriage conveys a sense of meaning, purpose, direction and stability that tends to benefit adults and especially children. People who become married have an expectation of sexual fidelity, and that fidelity tends to engender a sense of trust and security (Gabel, 2012).”
Traditional Marriage event in Miami Dade County on April 18, 2015. The event will be hosted by Chu Dollars. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/events/304699159741423/.
This article is not meant to be controversial. This article is written due to many issues in the State of Florida regarding cohabiting relationships, and also in the community of Miami-Dade County, regarding same-sex marriages. As a Floridian I take a rather conservative point of view regarding cohabiting relationships and same-sex marriages. I wanted to make a standpoint on our youth and traditional marriages, and the importance of a marriage in general. New society is very flexible regarding non-married couples, and also same-sex marriages. In same-sex marriages “this means equality in marriage if not on the job, for a lot more couples who have been kept waiting far too long” (Clawson, 2015). Young men and women should get married if they fall in love with each other. Society has become so critical of a traditional marriage in general for the past decade, most men and women may just prefer cohabiting.
Clawson, L. (5, January 2015). Marriage equality starts now in Miami-Dade County, with the rest of Florida to follow. Retrieved from: http://www.dailykos.com/story/2015/01/05/1355669/-Marriage-equality-starts-now-in-Miami-Dade-County-with-the-rest-of-Florida-to-follow
Gabel, A. (2012). Virginia. Retrieved from: The Marriage Crisis.http://uvamagazine.org/articles/the_marriage_crisis
Hall, S (23, Feb 2015). Marriage remains an important role in the future of young adults. Retrieved from:http://cms.bsu.edu/news/articles/2015/2/study-marriage-remains-an-important-role-in-the-future-of-young-adults
Munzenrieder,K. (2011). Unmarried Couples Living Together: A Crime in Florida. Retrieved from: http://www.miaminewtimes.com/news/unmarried-couples-living-together-a-crime-in-florida-6546509
Tumulty, K (2014). Conservatives decry Supreme Courts move on gay marriage. Retrieved from: http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/conservatives-decry-supreme-courts-move-on-gay-marriage/2014/10/06/ba98863c-4d89-11e4-babe-e91da079cb8a_story.html